Thursday, March 3, 2011

Wall Flies

Please note this a repost from another blogging site. I am in the process of transferring my blog archive.


Please note, it is not my intention to offend. If you are here....or there...on my wall looking in, maybe, just maybe, this will be the day you fly in and join the idea of social networking. First, what is social networking? An association of people drawn
together by family, work or hobby. The term was first coined by
professor J. A. Barnes in the 1950s, who defined the size of a social network as a group of about 100 to 150 people.
Depending on the social networking website in question, many of these
online community members share a common bond, whether that bond be
hobbies, religion, or politics. Once you are granted access to a social
networking website you can begin to socialize. This socialization may
include reading the profiles or profile pages of other members or even
contacting them.

Simply defined as it is, you get my drift. In fact, you got the drift of it when you logged in. (I think) Now, it is highly unlikely that I would attend any gathering of people whether known to me or not and spend my evening not speaking. I just couldn't do it, nor would I. Stopping right here...I understand that people come in varieties, some are social and some not so social. But do you go to a gathering to "look on"? I don't.

Periodically, I shuffle through my friends list and those of which we have not interacted in any form or fashion, I delete. No problem, I'm sure it's no loss since there was nothing there to lose. I much prefer an intimate group of say, 50 friends who interact on a somewhat regular basis. This is my social network.

Now, what perplexes me is this, on my Facebook profile I have a friend's list of 315 people whom I have personally had some type of formidable relationship with either past or present. On a regular basis, I would say I interact with perhaps twenty of these. And of that twenty, five are friends I have made on other sites on the interweb whom I have never had face to face contact with. My question, why are these people sitting on my wall? Are they friends? Granted some, I understand, do not frequent the site. Yet, some do and never breathe a sigh. What is up with that?

Pardon my sarcasm, but being of a social mind, I am finding it difficult to understand what possesses people to look and look and never interact. Now, I love to look, don't get me wrong. I will look at photos all day long but you can betcha you will know I am there. Can I get an "amen" on that? That is because I love commenting and I want you to know I looked.

Obviously, there is something I do not understand about (un)social networking. I am open-minded and willing to listen. Please tell me. I am not so foolish that I do not understand there are times when we know not what to say. Okay! I had someone the other day simply say " I love looking at your pictures". Is that difficult? I also understand "shyness". Let me know you are here and I will do the talking :) A simple "Hey" can open up a whole new friendship. And no, I do not expect interaction all the time but if we are friends and are in the same social network, then we kind of have an obligation to nurture friendship or perhaps, just let it go!

It has dawned on me that for anyone who fears interaction and prefers "flydom" , Twitter is the place for you! There you merely watch, you never have to respond :)

So..any insight you can spare me would certainly keep me at peace and prevent me from having to hang one of those fly trap thingys. And for any Wall Flys hanging about....speak to me. Do something. I love to socialize ♥
In fact, that's the reason I joined a social networking site!




Jayne said...

Amen. Some folks just like to collect. I hear you, and you'd think most people who decide so socially network would interact, but sometimes, they are just looking for names and faces to add to their wall. A circle of much smaller, and closer friends, friends who interact, share with one another, is much more satisfying.
Keep doing what you're doing. It's wonderful. ;)

peacegirl said...

HeeHee, Jayne. This was a repost that not only illicited hundreds of responses but the people there all made friends with one another. It served its purpose. Thanks for not being a wall fly :)